While sex doesn’t need to go on for great lengths to be enjoyable, it is completely normal to seek ways to make the pleasure last longer.
Sex is much more than just an orgasm – it’s about connecting with your partner, too. Research has shown that around 45% of men ejaculate within two minutes, and for most heterosexual couples, the average duration of sexual intercourse is 5.4 minutes (without including time for foreplay).
Researchers have determined through numerous studies that for many couples, a desirable sex session would ideally last anywhere from 7 to 13 minutes. So, if you’re craving more intimacy and more of a connection with your partner, there are certain ways you can boost your sex life and extend the length of time you can have sex for.
How To Make Sex Last Longer
It’s a well-known fact that men can reach orgasm more easily and more quickly than women. But the fact that premature ejaculation is one of the most common sexual disorders in men under the age of 40, as well as everyday stresses compromising focus and confidence, couples often find that sex doesn’t last as long as they’d like. Here are some tips on how to make sex last longer:
1. Don't put pressure on yourself
The first thing to remember when trying to make sex last longer is that there’s no pressure. The rom-coms tell us that women are supposed to want hour-long sex sessions, but this tends to be an unrealistic portrayal; sex doesn’t have to feel like a marathon.
Each couple is different and the length of time you’re both happy with may not be the same as it would be for someone else. What each individual wants in bed is very personal and contextualised based on the relationship you have with each other. It’s a good idea to have a conversation with your partner to talk through what it is that each of you wants, including the desired duration. This can take the pressure off trying to reach an unrealistic goal.
2. Practise mindfulness
Mindfulness has been in the media a lot over the last few years, and with good reason.
Mindfulness is about paying attention to the present moment and training your mind to focus on one task at a time. While it’s usually associated with mental health, it’s actually great to remember when improving intimacy.
Mindfulness is great for reducing stress and anxiety, and that in turn can also be beneficial to your sex life, too. Sex and relationship therapists say that practising mindful sex can improve your physical and emotional health by allowing you to fully focus on your bodily sensations which leads to a more rewarding sexual experience.
You don’t just have to practise mindfulness in the bedroom, either. Through being mindful in everyday situations, you’ll naturally become a pro in all other aspects of life. There are numerous apps and guides for meditation that can help you relax and unwind, or you could try mindful eating where you focus on the taste and texture of different foods while avoiding distractions.
The slowed breathing and calmer outlook acquired through mindfulness will help to reduce stress which can also help to slow ejaculation down and provide you with the skills to maintain control and focus on your partner.
3. Try Viagra pills
If you find that different positions and mindfulness don’t improve your sex life to the extent you’d like, you may want to consider exploring prescription pills to prolong ejaculation. You can speak to your GP or buy Viagra online through Express Pharmacy to help make sex last longer.
Viagra was the first medication created to treat erectile dysfunction and it provides men suffering from impotence the ability to maintain an erection for longer. Viagra pills improve your ability to achieve and retain an erection, working for men of any age.
How Does Viagra Work?
Viagra works by widening the blood vessels in the body, allowing for more blood to flow to the penis during sexual stimulation. It contains the active ingredient Sildenafil which is a PDE-5 inhibitor. This stops a specific enzyme from working in the body which is responsible for keeping the blood vessels in the penis constricted. This enables the individual to achieve a harder erection which can be maintained for longer periods of time.
How To Take Viagra
Viagra should be taken around an hour before you plan on having sex. It should be taken orally in tablet form and can be effective for up to four hours after ingesting. This medication can be effective in as little as 30 minutes before intercourse but the speed at which Viagra works depends on several factors. Taking the tablet alongside a heavy or high-fat meal can slow down how quickly the body absorbs the Sildenafil and can delay its efficiency.
The recommended dose of Viagra is one 50mg tablet taken one hour before sexual activity. If you experience side effects from this dosage, you can lower the dose to 25mg on the next occasion or increase the dose to 100mg if 50mg proves to be too weak.
You shouldn’t take Viagra more than once a day as this will impact its effectiveness and could increase the chance of you experiencing negative side effects, such as headaches, dizziness or upset stomach.
Struggling To Perform? Get In Touch Today
Sex is meant to be enjoyed and what makes for the perfect sexual experience varies from couple to couple. But if you’re finding that you’re struggling to perform and want to explore ways to improve your sex life for you and your partner, get in touch with us on 0208 123 0703 for advice.